Keep Away From These Things and Keep Your Marriage
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by: Janice Lipman
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Marriage is one of the most fragile and beautiful relationships of all. It is composed of two people having dissimilar values and personalities, but with all their dissimilarities; they still work and live together and become a family. Even little issues can break a marriage when not given enough attention. Always watch out and make changes to keep your marriage a divorce-proof.
In order to keep your marriage, you should keep away from things that are listed below.
Avoid the action on talking to each other when there is an issue. Discontinuing your communication is in no way the solution to any problem. Silent treatment is even a sure way to damage your marriage. Talk about your issues and always open all the channels of communication if you want to save you marriage.
Avoid being selfish. Marriage is not only about yourself; it is all about you and your partner, and your kids. No marriage will work if one of the party only thinks about her self and only the benefit if her self as well. Marriage is all about the two people; it does not matter on how you differ from each other but it is about working on your differences to complement each other's flaw.
Avoid outside interference. Always keep in mind that marriage is all about you and your partner. It was only two of you who exhchaged vows and i love yous. And since issues and problems always occur, try to handle it as a couple. As much as possible, do not allow a third party to get in the way in it. However, asking an advice from a professional is recommended rather than asking a friend or relatives because it is unavoidable that their opinions can be biased.
Avoid taking each other for granted. Simple gestures matters in a relationship. The smallest and the simplest things count in a relationship. Give acknowledgement whenever it is possible but do not overdo it.
Avoid nagging. The unceasing arguing in a marriage is the easiest way to wreck your marriage. Nagging during an argument should be evaded in any way. Better calm down for a few minutes if both of you are at the heights of your anger rather than to continue talking aboutconcerns when you both of you thinks that you are right. Hurtful words can never be taken back that is why you have to be very careful with what you say when you are angry.
Avoid too much restriction. All kinds of relationships need space. To avoid suffocation in the relationship, each of the couple has to go out with their friends and officemates at least once a month. Do not restrict your partner if he wants to go out as long as it is not daily. Give him freedom and let him to breath.
Avoid comparing the spouse to someone else. Both of you and your partner are of distinctive personalities. It is not healthy to the relationship if you always compare him to someone. It even ruins the marriage and may even reduce confidence of your partner. Accepting him as he is and avoid comparing him to someone is one of the best ways to save your marriage.
Avoid bringing past issues in the present. The reason why your past did not make it to your present is because they are not worth to be here. It is that simple. There is no reason why you have to keep bringing your past, there is no sense.
It does not mean that if you are already married, you have to discontinue doing the things that can help making your relationship strong. Marriage is like buying a car, there is a need of repairs and you always have to fill it with fuel in order to run it. And most significantly, marriage is meant for two people, not one and undoubtedly not three.
About the Author
Jeanne W. Harter is working as an instructor and guidance counselor in the University of Arizona She is presently in her Masters education in Psychology, studying in the same school where he is working. She also have 3 kids and have been married for 20 years with a businessman. She also the co author of the website how to save marriage. http://ezinearticles.com/?Signs-Of-A-Marriage-Breakdown-And-What-To-Do-To-Prevent-It&id=6805879
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