Questions on How To Pick Your Partner
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by: Janice Lipman
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There is no such thing as a perfect person but of all the billions people, there is that someone that will match up your flaw. With all the billions of people here in this world, looking for that someone is never easy. There are traits that you should look for to make sure your marriage is a success and does not end up in divorce. Decide well because the good and bad outputs of your decisions and choices will shape your life.
Question #1: How well can you accept that person on who he is?
There is no way that you can change the person that he really is. He can in no way be someone and you certainly have no right to change him the way you want to. Acceptance of yourself and of your partner can fit the dissimilarities between the two of you. Accepting is a one major issue in marriage and if this cannot be achieved, there is no need to stay.
Question #2: Do you like each other?
Before a relationship is made possible, liking each is the basic and beginning stage between two individuals. If you think that he is not your ideal best friend and you are not comfortable to talk to him about anything, regard it as a big red flag.
Question #3: How compatible are your values?
There should be common interests amongst two people in order to be compatible. It does not mean that you should have all you have is like-minded because that would be very uniteresting. At least you have one to three compatibilities. Though it is also suggested that you should have a bit of difference for a bit challenging to vary your interests. To farther prevent complications in the future, you should always examine your interests whether they match or not.
Question #4: Do you have same aims and goals in life?
Marriage does not mean that you have to give up expanding your job. You and your partner should have a life and an aim. Some people think that women are supposed to stay at home and take care of the kids. But if you have alike ambitions and you both give concern to each other’s life, you are open to probabilities that both of you should have work in order to nourish the family’s needs. If the wife wants to work, the husband should not limit her.
Question #5: Is your mantra “Love alone is not enough?”
Let us face it, love alone cannot support the needs of the family; especially if there are kids. Love should be there in the relationship in order to have harmony and peaceful living but it should not only be the only thing that a couple thinks of. It is reality that both should also work hard for family. Money is one of the common issues of marriage arguments and problems.
The compatibility of the couple also depends on how they were brought up even if they have unlike views. Each person has dissimilar values in life, marriage, love and money. It is the way they handle problems where they can conclude that they are well-matched. There is no perfect person and the main intention of marriage is to find someone that would match your imperfection. Marriage should not be took as a life sentence, instead, an assurance that you already have someone that you love and will love you in return until you grow old. Marriage is a delicate relationship; therefore you should know the do’s and don’ts on how to keep it strong and divorce-proof. Make your marriage a relationship that everyone will get jealous of. Not perfect, but able to bring out the best in each of you.
About the Author
Jeanne W. Harter is a guidance counselor and a Psychology teacher in the University in Arizona. She is currently in her Masters education in Psychology, studying in the same school where he is working. Jeanne has 3 kids and been happily married for more than 20 years. She also the co author of the website how to save marriage. http://www.articleblast.com/Home_and_Family/General/Counseling_On_Saving_Marriage/
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