Ways in Marriage
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by: Janice Lipman
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Couples do not just have a happy relationship just like that. Both parties engaged should be working on the relationship that they have in order to have a happy marriage. Life and family have rules; the same goes with marriage to be happy.
Below are simple and ordinary rules that are not really hard to comply although it may take a lot of practices before you get used of the rules.
One. Honesty should always be abided, 100%. You do not want to be lied so don't do things that you think can do hurt in your relationship. Even the lies in small things should not be done. If you cannot be trusted in small issues, the more you cannot be trusted in larger things in your relationship, right? Be honest in all aspects because no matter how major your flaw is, being honest can recompense it.
Two. Partners should go out together and synch out their hobbies. It is important for couples to share the same interests particularly on their free days that they can spend their time together while playing tennis, swimming, running and many others. Sharing the same hobbies for couple could also help toughen their ties.
Three. Do not go out on a vacation alone. Having a break is one of the private ways to get intimate and spend time together. A vacation can greatly help for couples to reconstruct their relationship and talk about concerns in a private and tactful way.
Four. Never be angry at the same time. When you are in an argument, nothing will ever be solved if you are both screaming at each other at the same time. It is recommended that you should not let a night pass having a heavy heart but if you keep nagging at each other the whole night, it is better to let the night pass and talk about your concerns the morning after. No issues can be settle when both of you are at the peak of your emotions. But all problems can be resolved when either or both of you are already psychologically calm.
Five. If there is a need for you to correct your partner, do it in a nice way. We know that when we married our partner, he is not perfect and he will never be. That is why marriage is a constant reminder to take our partner whoever he is. If there is something about him that you do not like, talk to him in a nice way. Never affront your partner for him to be better. Instead, tell him encouraging things for him to be better and look at the positive effect of what you told him.
Sixth. The faults from the past should never be brought back over and over again. The past can never be changed and will always be that way. We cannot forget everything from the past but forgiveness should always be there in a relationship. Accept that both of you are not perfect and you had your own issues from the past. Do not forget that what you had in the past are the things that built who you are in the present.
Seventh. If you made a mistake, admit it and ask for forgiveness. Pride has no place in a relationship. If you think that you made a mistake, do not argue about and save time to quarrel on things when you know who to blame. Accepting your mistake does not make you less of a person, it actually means that you are a humble enough to acknowledge your faults to avoid further fights that may even lead to hurting your partner more.
These laws are for general knowledge for married couples but they can be explained depending on the personalities of each person. The rules of marriage are not set to choke the parties involved but to make things easier for the couple for the do’s and don’ts in order to keep the marriage.
About the Author
Jeanne W. Harter is a guidance counselor and a Psychology teacher in the University in Arizona. She is currently in her Masters education in Psychology, studying in the same school where he is working. Jeanne has 3 kids and been happily married for more than 20 years. You can also read her writings on how to save marriage where she is also a co author. http://josephwest.livejournal.com/521.html
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